Stable family

             

            

           STABLE FAMILY

Todays families are under different pressures,they come across different circumstances which in sometimes people give up and fed up.Sometimes there are endless conflicts and there are times when it is difficult be in one.Other times people decide to make wrong decisions without looking at the side-effects .

We live in a world that it is very trouble some in such a way that its very easy to get angry on such small issues and other times can be very huge matters but its easy to say for everyone who has got a knowledge its easy to cope with these situations rather than doing some unpleasing actions that will dissappoint many people.

Sometimes the misunderstanding in the families can lead to family separation whereas this has become a very common thing in most of families,This is because a family can not be together when there is no sense of listening each other,and because of this it creates hatred among the members of the parents.This hatred can even affect the entire life of the children,most of the time the conflicts and misunderstandings rise between parents and because of this some children in the family because of their way of capturing things therefore a child may rely on one side,either being at his or her mother's side or father's side something which is not pleased and not advised.

When there is family misunderstanding and you notice that its the issue between parents ,children are not supposed to rely on either of the side.Because sometimes you may not know who is the reason for all,also despite all a child is not supposed to interfere the parents misunderstanding because it may create some hatred between him or her with her parents and this is very unpleasing thing that most children do not understand and yet they decide to rely on either.If its parent misunderstanding then as a child or any member of the family should help out in sorting out the troubles rather blames which will never solve things out.

What are the reason for family instability?

Everything has its reason for its emergence or the cause for it,and this is likely to most family instability or misunderstandings in most African societies is accelerated by some reasons as follows

1.Infidelity

This is the most crucial reason that leads to family misunderstanding .It is believed that the only basis of seeking for divorce is when a partner or one partner is involved in extra-marital affairs,In this case the innocent one feels betrayed,rejected and worthless.He or she thinks of the way to handle the situation which sometimes is a blow to the family .

2.Interference of the in laws

Unity and solidarity matters alot in marriage ,for a marriage to last longer therefore the couple should be left alone to manage their own affairs and decisions for themselves.When we have constant interference it will give rise to misunderstandings .

3.Childlessness

In some families, the tendency of a woman to not have a child it often becomes a big problem that is totally  affecting the stability of the family.Because sometimes a father may want a family and so a mother would be able to bear children,so this will hinder the peace and stability of the family and so misunderstanding will happen.

3.Eonomic hardship

For a family to set up its plans ,there there must be a good economic condition.This is because Economic is the most priority in the family and so whenever there is economic decline therefore a family is meant to be self sufficient and thus cause some misunderstandings and endless quarels.

4.Loss of Job or employment

For a family to meet its financial needs therefore  when a parent loss his or her job then it totally affects the safe standard of living.

A father being stressed after a loss of job

5.Inadequate time for courtship

A couple that just have marriage so fast without having enough time for courtship or going for a marriage course and such they lack time the knowledge of each others and also they lack the information for the survival of their marriage and its prosperity.This situation may become so hard for them to live together.

Misunderstandings in the families are inevitable but atleast having a stable family can help in resolving these misunderstandings.Speaking of a stable family is a family that involves creating a nurturing and supportive environment for all family members through addressing challenges effectively and healthy relationships.

Here is how you should do to maintain these healthy relationships and making a family stable

As a family there should be effective communication;In most of the families there is no freedom to expression and because of this it hinders the family stability because it is pleasing being in an open family where people can express their thoughts and feelings in a non-judgemental environment.It is even making sense when people listen to each other and encourage dialogue because it minimizes misunderstandings and conflicts can be easily resolved

A stable family has got boundaries; In every how and any circumstances boundaries brings respect and prevents overstepping limits,there should even be a personal space and privacy this can sort out issues.Its pleasure meeting people in the family who respects and recognize the presence of everyone as a member of a family this helps alot,it is quit different from those without boundaries or limits because nobody will listen to anyone by thinking that he or she knows the best or is the brightest of all.

In todays busy world its easy to neglect spending time together.But the real thing is that spending time together as a family and sharing the lasting memories can help in strengthening families.Its enjoyable sharing experiences as a family like adventures a setting a dedicating time for meal,so having a quality time may build a stable family.Children in the family may not fear their parents and they could share their things with their parents easily as friends.

Conflicts are inevitable in every relationship but how they handle is what matters alot.Developing some resolution skills is something that avoids alot of miseries like separations of family.As a family member everyone has to understand on compromises and even finding win to win solutions whereas instead of coming up with the ideas of escaping from problems one must generate a skill that the problem should be solved.

Failure of this things to make or ensuring family stability therefore it causes instability  whereas family instability is refered to changes of parents' residential and romantic partnerships such as marriage,divorce and romantic partners move in or out of home.Family instability hinders the development of children behaviour in the family.

How does family instability affects children?

Since children relies on parents emotional support and stability so when there is instability 

Children may experience high level of stress and anxiety,this can manifest behavioural issues  like aggression.So family instability contributes to increase of risky behaviours during adolesense,this is because when there is no stability in the family therefore they decide to seek stability from external sources such as peers and risky behaviours such as drug use and even early sexual engagement.

young man using alcohol as a mean to stress freeing himself

Also it hinders child's academic perfomance forexample;frequent changes in resident can affect schooling and continuity also the stress can affect children concertration in learning activities.

Children will often have difficulty in socializing and expressing age-appropriate social behaviour

Also because of family instability a child may tell stories that are incosistent in an attempt to hide the instabilities and insecurities.

The children may face malnutrition and many healthy disorders like obesity and others because they will lack proper diet that will led to good wellbeing and healthy.

A child faces difficult in having his diet due to separation family and so he decides to m feed from the leftovers thrown.

Because instability in any form affects the children,however change is inevitable in life for all of us.Parents play a great a role to how children can manage the situations,the parents that keeps their mind in long term impact of how their behaviour can impact their children now and even in future are a step ahead in assisting  to have a positive future .

A stable family that can shape the positive behaviours of the children